So Stupid!
I don’t know exactly how or when, but apparently my step grandma has taken a turn for the worse, my aunt says.
And it’s her daughter that’s acting really stupid. As background info, the daughter is about a year older than me, she has a four-year-old girl, and her husband is dying of luekemia. About two months ago, he was given four to six months to live. Yes, he’s had all the treatments and also a bone marrow transplant - nothing’s working.
So this daughter, let’s call her N is being completely stupid. To begin with, she’s about 2.5 hours from home to be at the hospital with her husband and now her mom. She has her car up here but over the last several weeks she’s been refusing to drive anywhere. She had my grandpa driving her around. He will be 72 in December, it’s really taking its toll on him.
Her daughter’s been staying with my grandpa and his wife, but now that his wife’s in intensive care, she’s been with my aunt and uncle (mom’s brother) for over a week now. N has not called to ask about her daughter once.
My aunt says the girl just cries for her mommy, just out of the blue will break down and just completely cry. She says she’s never seen a little girl cry like this before.
Last weekend, they took her to see her dad and apparently N’s mad at him for some reason. He made a comment that if she came back and found that the little girl was with him, N might call the police. My uncle said to him that she is his daughter and she needs to spend time with him, that he and my aunt will be back to pick her up later.
Now they finally told N that she has to drive for herself. I mean, it’s just rediculous, right? So my mom says she is driving for herself now… to the malls and all around town. Yet her daughter is still crying for her mommy at my aunt and uncle’s.
N did not pay her husband’s last life insurance premium. Seen this one coming, did ya? Yup, they dropped him like I’m sure they’ve been wanting to do since he got luekemia. My grandpa’s already shelled out for a cemetery plot, I guess he’ll be paying for all the funeral expenses, too. And if I know N, she’ll want the best of the best (aka most expensive) for everything.
The husband was out of the hospital yesterday, my mom says, and went over to the other hospital to see his mother-in-law. So both him and N were there and she said that N refused to even speak to him. When he left the hospital he was crying and said something like, “I might as well die now.”
You know what? Whatever it is - GET OVER IT. The man is dying!
You know, I love my family, really, I do. But sometimes people can be so boneheaded you just want to say you don’t know them. Of course, I’m not related to N by blood… that’s sort of a comfort here.
This poor little girl, the four-year-old. Her dad’s dying. Her grandma’s possibly dying. Her mother acts like she doesn’t want her. She’s having to live right now with people she doesn’t know very well. (Which, I hope by now she’s pretty comfortable there. My mom was going to take her, too, but she went to my aunt and uncle’s because they’ve got younger kids that can play with her, their youngest is… six, I think.)
Why do I see N being a thorn in my grandpa’s side until the day he dies? Even if her mom dies, I’m sure he’ll end up taking care of her. *sigh*
