Comments on: Reaching Out http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/ hmmm... what? Mon, 30 Aug 2010 22:37:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Chelsea http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/comment-page-1/#comment-14284 Chelsea Mon, 16 Jan 2006 17:37:59 +0000 http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/#comment-14284 Hmm. I think what I would do in your case would acknowledge the fact you're not sure what to do - lay that fact down on the table so it isn't the elephant in the room any longer, and then tell him that if he needs anything, you and Steve are there to help? Just be a friend :) You're good at that, Valerie! Hmm. I think what I would do in your case would acknowledge the fact you’re not sure what to do – lay that fact down on the table so it isn’t the elephant in the room any longer, and then tell him that if he needs anything, you and Steve are there to help? Just be a friend :) You’re good at that, Valerie!

]]> By: chele http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/comment-page-1/#comment-14276 chele Mon, 16 Jan 2006 16:02:03 +0000 http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/#comment-14276 oh lord just do more of the same... Something nice everytime you see him.. Start the conversation.. He right now doesn't know where to start it himself.. So you being the one to start it will make it better... See for the short amount of time at least he is not thinking of the problems.. He is actually focasing on what you are saying.. I don't know if this makes sense.. Just do more of the same thing you did today... m oh lord just do more of the same…
Something nice everytime you see him.. Start the conversation.. He right now doesn’t know where to start it himself.. So you being the one to start it will make it better… See for the short amount of time at least he is not thinking of the problems.. He is actually focasing on what you are saying..
I don’t know if this makes sense..
Just do more of the same thing you did today…
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]]> By: Jay http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/comment-page-1/#comment-14271 Jay Mon, 16 Jan 2006 14:57:12 +0000 http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/#comment-14271 A lot of his friends might have been "couple" friends, friends with his wife also, and he may not be comfortable talking to them right now. You should invite him over for coffee or something. You don't need to bring the topic up necessarily, just say something general once he's there about his "hard time" and he can talk about it if he wants to, and if he can. But just knowing that he's not alone, which he probably feels right now, will do him a world of good. Also, I think it's really great that you show concern about this guy. The world needs more yous. A lot of his friends might have been “couple” friends, friends with his wife also, and he may not be comfortable talking to them right now. You should invite him over for coffee or something. You don’t need to bring the topic up necessarily, just say something general once he’s there about his “hard time” and he can talk about it if he wants to, and if he can. But just knowing that he’s not alone, which he probably feels right now, will do him a world of good.

Also, I think it’s really great that you show concern about this guy. The world needs more yous.

]]> By: Jordie http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/comment-page-1/#comment-14268 Jordie Mon, 16 Jan 2006 14:12:02 +0000 http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/#comment-14268 Wow. I am totally lost for words on this one. :( How could any woman be so heartless as to abandon her husband out of the blue? I think it's great that you want to be there for the poor guy. I think you should take up on Christine's suggestion and organise a dinner. I bet that would really lift his spirits. And if you don't know him all too well, it would be a good opportunity to get to know him better. Wow. I am totally lost for words on this one. :( How could any woman be so heartless as to abandon her husband out of the blue? I think it’s great that you want to be there for the poor guy. I think you should take up on Christine’s suggestion and organise a dinner. I bet that would really lift his spirits. And if you don’t know him all too well, it would be a good opportunity to get to know him better.

]]> By: Christine http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/comment-page-1/#comment-14261 Christine Mon, 16 Jan 2006 12:42:07 +0000 http://spoken-for.org/archives/2006/01/15/1381/#comment-14261 Yikes...that's hard :/ I would just let him know that you are there for him if he needs to talk. Maybe invite him over for a home cooked meal and some good company to spend time with you take his mind off of things. Yikes…that’s hard :/ I would just let him know that you are there for him if he needs to talk. Maybe invite him over for a home cooked meal and some good company to spend time with you take his mind off of things.

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