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		<title>follow-up</title>
		<link>http://spoken-for.org/archives/2010/02/04/2868/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Feb 2010 05:53:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Val</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Today K had a NICU follow-up appointment at the child development center.  She saw a nurse practitioner, physical therapist, occupational therapist, and a doctor.  Overall, every one of them is happy with where she is at.  They gave me a few pointers on some things to do with her to strengthen some [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Today K had a NICU follow-up appointment at the child development center.  She saw a nurse practitioner, physical therapist, occupational therapist, and a doctor.  Overall, every one of them is happy with where she is at.  They gave me a few pointers on some things to do with her to strengthen some muscles and they expressed concern over her eyes and a way she turns her head to the left (or right) and then uses her peripheral vision of the other side to look at something.  She sees a neurologist next month though, in part for the eye issue.  The occupational therapist thought that maybe K&#8217;s looking at things like that was her way of stopping her eyes from moving around, to get a fix on what she sees.  She also has the next kidney ultrasound coming up soon.  And I am so tired&#8230;</p>
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		<title>bedtime woes</title>
		<link>http://spoken-for.org/archives/2010/01/27/2865/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 27 Jan 2010 06:45:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Val</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Bleh, it&#8217;s frustrating and it never fails.  Tonight, for example.  I warned the E-boy:
&#8220;Bedtime in one hour.&#8221;
&#8220;Bedtime in half an hour.&#8221;
&#8220;Bedtime in fifteen minutes.&#8221;
&#8220;Ok, brush your teeth, go to the bathroom, wash your hands, get your jammies on, and go to bed.&#8221;
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Bleh, it&#8217;s frustrating and it never fails.  Tonight, for example.  I warned the E-boy:</p>
<p>&#8220;Bedtime in one hour.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Bedtime in half an hour.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Bedtime in fifteen minutes.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Ok, brush your teeth, go to the bathroom, wash your hands, get your jammies on, and go to bed.&#8221;</p>
<p>A lot of instructions, I know, but he&#8217;s really got that bedtime routine down pat.  The problem starts about 15 minutes after he&#8217;s been in bed.</p>
<p>&#8220;I&#8217;m hungry.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;Hello?  Mommy?  I&#8217;m hungry!!&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;You&#8217;ve been sent to bed.  Good-night.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;But I&#8217;m hungry!  I didn&#8217;t have dinner.&#8221;</p>
<p>He totally had dinner, whether he wants to admit it or not.  Sometimes he gets a snack (contrary to what my size may show you, we don&#8217;t usually have dessert here).  But he always has plenty of time before bed to tell me he&#8217;s hungry.  There are times I&#8217;ve even asked him if he was hungry, gotten a &#8220;no&#8221; answer, sent him to bed, then *suddenly* he&#8217;s &#8220;hungry.&#8221;  Most of the time I think it&#8217;s just a ploy to stay up later but I feel guilty thinking that I don&#8217;t want to deny a growing boy some food.</p>
<p>But this behavior has got to stop.  Tonight I told him, &#8220;ok, you can eat your dinner left-overs but then to bed and this is NOT going to happen anymore.  You have plenty of time to decide if you&#8217;re hungry or not and you will NOT be getting out of bed like this anymore.&#8221;  We&#8217;ll see how it goes.</p>
<p>The thing that really grinds my gears, though, besides when he&#8217;s been offered food just 10 minutes prior, is that he throws an absolute fit about finishing dinner left-overs.  I have been in his face about not wasting food but he just doesn&#8217;t seem to get it.  Of course, I win there, because I say &#8220;it&#8217;s that or nothing, we&#8217;re not wasting it,&#8221; but it still frustrates.</p>
<p>This has been a rant, good-night.  :)</p>
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		<title>reflections</title>
		<link>http://spoken-for.org/archives/2010/01/25/2858/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Jan 2010 05:09:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Val</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[A friend who has a special needs daughter told me quite some time ago that it&#8217;s a good idea to keep all a kid&#8217;s info and medical history, etc., in a notebook so you can easily find everything and all the important info for the doctors.  I tried it in September but didn&#8217;t get [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>A friend who has a special needs daughter told me quite some time ago that it&#8217;s a good idea to keep all a kid&#8217;s info and medical history, etc., in a notebook so you can easily find everything and all the important info for the doctors.  I tried it in September but didn&#8217;t get far.  I realized last week, though, that I am already getting fuzzy about dates.  The last time I was asked when K was removed from oxygen completely and then when she had the last ultrasound of her brain&#8230; my mind failed me.  So tonight I&#8217;ve sat for the last hour and a half, going through my old entries here and even photos to see when this or that happened and to get it into a notebook.  Because, apparently, just as I think things might really be coming to an end, that this story might be written for the most part, I&#8217;m told I need to start getting her some physical therapy and that she&#8217;ll need to see a neurologist in March.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s really been a ride to go through these entries, not even a year later yet.  It&#8217;s amazing how fast time has flown.  Where did it all go?  I can&#8217;t believe 2009 went so fast.  And really, my heart melts when I look at those pictures of K from April and May&#8230; how did I get so lucky that she would go from this:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/anela/3433018403/" title="Without the eye patches by anela, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3571/3433018403_cff0468929.jpg" width="300" alt="Without the eye patches" /></a></p>
<p>To this:</p>
<p><img src="http://spoken-for.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/DSC_2622-300x201.jpg" alt="" title="DSC_2622" width="300" height="201" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-2859" /></p>
<p>In only a few short months?</p>
<p>But, again, apparently the war isn&#8217;t over yet.  We&#8217;ll see next month (hopefully) if she needs kidney surgery and in March, hopefully the neurologist will tell us she&#8217;s just fine.  We shall see what we shall see&#8230;  But in the meantime, I&#8217;m not worried, I know things will be fine.</p>
<p>Though, I also wish I posted here more.  Obviously, there are times I need those entries to remind me of things.  :P</p>
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		<title>So, yeah.</title>
		<link>http://spoken-for.org/archives/2010/01/18/2856/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Jan 2010 08:00:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Val</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The last week of the year was a forced week off for Steve from work.  During that week he was informed that due to lack of work, out of the first 8 weeks of the year, everyone was required to take off 4 of those weeks.  None of those weeks were paid.  [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The last week of the year was a forced week off for Steve from work.  During that week he was informed that due to lack of work, out of the first 8 weeks of the year, everyone was required to take off 4 of those weeks.  None of those weeks were paid.  He worked the first week of the year then was off last week.  On Friday, he was informed he was laid off completely.</p>
<p>I have varying feelings ranging from &#8220;we&#8217;ll be just fine&#8221; to the staring into space &#8220;oh. my. gosh.  What are we going to do?&#8221;<br />
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Applying for unemployment is a pain in the butt.  Apparently you have to do this every week or at least within 2 weeks.  We&#8217;d first applied almost a year ago when he had to take his first forced week off, right before my water broke.  He had his waiting week then, or so we thought (the week you have to wait before you will start getting payments when you apply).  We didn&#8217;t do anything with it again until this past fall.  He&#8217;d had a couple of other weeks off in between then, but I think he took vacation pay then.  Since it was longer than 28 days and no other claims were made, we were told we had another waiting week.  Then we filed for the last week of the year and no payment ever came.  Come to find out, the &#8220;case&#8221; went stale when there was no activity on it yet the site continued to take and verify his information, but nothing would progress.  Steve talked to a guy on the phone and sorted it out, at least I think it&#8217;s taken care of.  But unemployment&#8230; that&#8217;s going to be an adjustment.  I need to sit down and budget it all out.  And do my business sales tax.  Ugh, I&#8217;m behind this year (but not late yet thankfully).</p>
<p>But as far as going back to work&#8230; he&#8217;s #755 on the books which means there are 754 guys in front of him waiting for a job.  They estimate a period of 18 months to two years before a job would get to him.  Unemployment lasts, what, a year?  And the prices of things keep rising and the brains of the people running our country keep going down the toilet&#8230; it&#8217;s not going to get better.  Two years is probably a best-case scenario.</p>
<p>It ticks me off, all the work and money leaving this country because of the morons we have in office who either can&#8217;t see or completely don&#8217;t care how this affects the little guy.  Bring back the jobs, idiots, and the economy will pick up.</p>
<p>This sucks.</p>
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		<title>Does this make me a bad mother?</title>
		<link>http://spoken-for.org/archives/2010/01/09/2854/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 10 Jan 2010 02:31:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Val</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[So we borrowed The New Super Mario Bros from my brother-in-law and while it&#8217;s totally fun, it&#8217;s a bit hard for E.  He has been picking it up little by little but I see how it&#8217;s hard for him having never played the original Mario Bros.  For instance, at first he expected the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>So we borrowed <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002Z01QO2?ie=UTF8&#038;tag=stegennethist-20&#038;linkCode=as2&#038;camp=1789&#038;creative=390957&#038;creativeASIN=B002Z01QO2" target="_blank">The New Super Mario Bros</a> from my brother-in-law and while it&#8217;s totally fun, it&#8217;s a bit hard for E.  He has been picking it up little by little but I see how it&#8217;s hard for him having never played the original Mario Bros.  For instance, at first he expected the Wii remote to guide his little dude completely.  It&#8217;s really like a flashback to when we first got an NES when I was little.  I remember my mom doing huge arm motions when trying to jump Mario over something.  But apparently once we train our brains to know that it&#8217;s just our fingers doing the walking, Nintendo has to come out with something like the Wii.  :P</p>
<p>So, anyway.  E is pretty competitive and he tends to get upset when he loses.  It&#8217;s something we&#8217;re working on, really, but in the meantime, sometimes I just want him to win so he&#8217;ll be quieter.  He now has full reign of the game with Worlds 1 through 8 unlocked and all but two levels beaten on the first 7 Worlds.  Of course, every time his lives run out, his inventory is cleared and the mushroom houses reset themselves.  So he heads there first.</p>
<p>The red mushroom houses have a little mini matching game.  Does it make me a bad mother that I look up the <a href="http://faqs.ign.com/articles/105/1050206p1.html" target="_blank">cheats and tell him which boxes to pick</a> so that he wins all the stuff and doesn&#8217;t hear the bad guy laughing at him?  At least then he does the victory dance and that&#8217;s just way beyond cute.  :P</p>
<p>This game was totally designed with me in mind, though, I know it.  I am just not coordinated enough to play the truly 3D games out there!</p>
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		<title>Gingerbread 2009</title>
		<link>http://spoken-for.org/archives/2009/12/19/2837/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 20 Dec 2009 05:12:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Val</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[ I wanted to make this a tradition for us, but we skipped last year because we were sick and I just wasn&#8217;t feeling up to anything until&#8230; um&#8230; now?  :)  But we did a gingerbread house in 2007 and this year Elijah and I did the gingerbread train I had bought for [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img src="http://spoken-for.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/DSC_2180-201x300.jpg" alt="DSC_2180" title="DSC_2180" width="201" height="300" align="left" /> I wanted to make this a tradition for us, but we skipped last year because we were sick and I just wasn&#8217;t feeling up to anything until&#8230; um&#8230; now?  :)  But we did a <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/anela/tags/gingerbreadhouse2007/" target="_blank">gingerbread house in 2007</a> and this year Elijah and I did the gingerbread train I had bought for last year.  Yeah, yeah, yeah, maybe <i>one of these days</i> I will bake my own gingerbread.</p>
<p>This thing was so hard to do!  Heh!  I don&#8217;t know if they&#8217;re always like this or because it&#8217;s a year old, but the green icing meant to be the &#8220;glue&#8221; for parts was so thick!  The directions said it would be toothpaste-like, but it was more like play doh!  I finally got it put together though, and Elijah added the candy where he wanted.  Silly kid always wants it to look just like it is on the box, so he put candy in a lot of the same places (some even using the same colors!) but of course, the one on the box is probably actually plastic, so it&#8217;s near impossible!</p>
<p>It was fun, though, and we will hopefully continue to make this a yearly thing.  Elijah loves putting these together and he can&#8217;t wait to eat it.  The thought of eating it really grosses me out, though it does smell good, but for his sake I&#8217;ll make sure I keep any dust from gathering on it HAHAHA<br />
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<p><img src="http://spoken-for.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/DSC_2169-300x201.jpg" alt="DSC_2169" title="DSC_2169" width="300" height="201" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-2839" /></p>
<p><img src="http://spoken-for.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/DSC_2173-201x300.jpg" alt="DSC_2173" title="DSC_2173" width="201" height="300" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-2840" /></p>
<p><img src="http://spoken-for.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/DSC_2174-201x300.jpg" alt="DSC_2174" title="DSC_2174" width="201" height="300" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-2841" /></p>
<p><img src="http://spoken-for.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/DSC_2176-300x201.jpg" alt="DSC_2176" title="DSC_2176" width="300" height="201" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-2842" /></p>
<p><img src="http://spoken-for.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/DSC_2178-300x201.jpg" alt="DSC_2178" title="DSC_2178" width="300" height="201" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-2843" /></p>
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<p><img src="http://spoken-for.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/DSC_2182-300x201.jpg" alt="DSC_2182" title="DSC_2182" width="300" height="201" class="alignnone size-medium wp-image-2847" /></p>
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<p>And, yes, I enjoy taking pictures of it with the 50mm lens!</p>
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